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I can’t beleive they treat me like this…   1 comment

So, we have my step kids every other weekend and every Tuesday and Thursday afternoons after school.  I do a lot of the driving (25 miles each way) to get them and my husband takes them home. Since my husband is a lobster fisherman, then most days he isn’t home from the boat to go, or he would go get them and take them home himself, but I try to help.

There aren’t many days on the weekends when we have the kids, that my husband will have to go to Haul, but today is one of the first days in a long time that this has happened and I wish I could be the one working.  Most of the time when my husband is home the kids will be good and everyone will get along. There are some days that nothing goes right and everyone fights with everyone else. Its def. not my favorite type of day, but things can’t go smoothly everyday. Or at least they never have here.

As soon as my husband leaves the house all hell breaks loose. Well I can’t say that, I should say that as soon as the kids are all up, that’s when all hell breaks loose.  You see since Jason is a lobster fisherman, then he is up and out of the house usually around 5. The twins woke up around 6:30 and my step daughter woke up about 7 and my step son woke up around 8:30. As soon as the older kids were awake the day went down hill.  You see, they think that without their dad around they can do anything they want and say anything they want, no matter if they are told not to or not! It drives me nuts!

Since the older kids have gotten up they have been talking back to me, lying to me, and have been disrespectful to me. They don’t care how they talk to me, they don’t care if they hurt my feelings. They get the boys in trouble because they tell them to do things that they shouldn’t do and lets face it, the boys are still young enough so they try to do everything they are told to do. I know someday they will realize that what they are being told to do is wrong, I just don’t know when that someday will be.  It really frustrates me to have to raise my voice so they will listen, or for them to do things that they know they shouldn’t do and think they can get away with it.  They promised my husband they would be good for me today while he was gone and I’m still waiting for them to be good.  After yesterday when he was home and we had a great day I had high hopes of everything going smoothly!

We had a GREAT day yesterday, we had some friends/family over for supper and all the kids carved pumpkins. For the most part while our company was here the kids were good. Minus them doing some things that they knew they should, like sliding down the stairs. But all in all things went good. Everyone had fun!

And I guess this is how they are repaying me for such a fun day yesterday! My husband didn’t really want to carve pumpkins, but I thought that they would enjoy it and they did. They seemed to have a great time! I just don’t know how much more of being treated like this i can handle.  If my husband has to work while the kids are here, which doesn’t happen that often but if the weather is bad during the week he is left with no choice but to go to haul on the weekend, then they either have to stay here with me or sometimes they go to my mother-in-laws house. But that doesn’t happen that often either as she is very busy herself.  The only other option is to make them go home early and not have to deal with it. I really don’t want it to come to that, having to make them go home after 1 day here when they usually get 2, but I am at my wits end. I can’t take much more of being walked all over just because there Dad isn’t here.  Not to mention the fact that the boys see them treating me this way and talking badly to me and they copy them.  Lets not get me started on the boys picking up on their older siblings Lying, that is a whole other blog post!

So what would you do?

Posted October 23, 2011 by mytwotornados in Ethan, Nathan, step kids

Things have changed around here   Leave a comment

So it was a fun and busy summer, and apparently I was to busy to even blog…I have got to get better about this!! Hopefully now that it’s fall and we are home more often, I will get a chance to blog once a week or so!

So let’s see.  Since I blogged last, Ethan has gotten himself potty trained!! He is still in pull-ups at night, but I’ll take it!! I decided back in June, to just go cold turkey and put him in underwear, I figured at the most I would be doing a ton of extra laundry, but much to my surprise, he didn’t have any accidents. Now getting him to poop on the potty was a little harder but he has mastered that as well, and he is even standing up to pee on the potty now, no thanks to a box of cheerios for targets!!

Nathan on the other hand, has finally started to show an interest in going on the potty, but he is still in no hurry.  Just another example of how different they are! But he is getting there and I know it won’t be long. I just can’t push him, no matter how much I want to.  He will get there when he is ready, which shouldn’t be much longer!

We spent a ton of weekends at the beach this summer, it was wonderful! The beach we go to, you can only get to my boat, and its a private island, so there really aren’t a lot of people that go there! Its our favorite place in the summer.  Sure it take a lot of work to get everyone ready to go, and get everything packed, especially if its a weekend that we have the older kids, but its always a good time and always well worth it.  I’m not sure what the boys favorite part would be, either just going on the boat, which lets face it, they LOVE or actually getting to the beach to play. But either way, they sleep really good after a nice long day at the beach and a couple rides on the lobster boat!

We have still been going to play group 2 times a month at a local church, the boys love it and they are playing with kids that they will be in school with.  In a couple weeks we will go and have their first ever Halloween party! I’m pretty excited about it. and I’m going to try and make Cake Pops for them! I love to bake and do fun things like that, so it should be fun!

We moved out of our old house over Labor day weekend and actually moved to Jonesport! The house we were living in on Beals Island, was nice, but we had to move out over summer for the Month of July. And with the boys getting older, it was harder this year to pack all our stuff up and move to my in laws for a month.  So this summer while we were at my in laws my husband and I decided that we would look for a new rental, that we could stay in year round and we were lucky that we found one so quickly! It only has 3 bedrooms, but over all we have more space.  My step son is sharing a room with the twins, and it works out pretty good, especially since the twins are really only in their room to sleep. they don’t spend much time upstairs.  Our new house even has a “sun room” which has my washer dryer hook up in it, and we have really turned the room into a play room, minus the washer/dryer.  The boys love it and I love not having all of their toys in our living room. Its been a good change for all of us, and it feels more like home then the other place did.

Now with the move, I have uprooted the boys from going to school with all the little kids we have gotten to know over the past few months. Now they will be going to Jonesport Elementary School, which a whole different group of kids. This makes me sad but they will still be friends with the kids from Beals! after all its just the next town over!

So i think that just about sums it up.  Nothing else new going on, and hopefully things will just keep going the way they have. The boys may be starting nursery school the first of November, which would be great for them, just 1 or maybe 2 mornings a week, but that’s enough for them, and I am sure I will find something to do with my spare time! I think next year when they go to school, I am going to take a CNA course so I can start working when they are in school full time!

Oh and I guess I should mention, I am signing on to become a pampered chef consultant! I have wanted to for a few years now and I feel like now is the time to do it! Wish me luck!

Posted October 7, 2011 by mytwotornados in Ethan, family, Nathan