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T-Ball   Leave a comment

So on the boys 5th birthday, they had their very first t-ball game! And let me just tell you how adorable it was! There are 9 kids on their team, and they all try their hardest every time! Not to mention how cute they all look out there when they are up to bat!

Both of the boys have improved greatly since the first game, makes me sad that they only have 3 games left this season. But I am sure that they will keep us busy with other activities. I know that in August, they will be playing youth soccer, and then when school starts back up in September, they will be running cross country if they want to.

I was not a very athletic person growing up. I was actually in the band in school. My husband played Soccer, Baseball, Basketball, and ran Cross Country too. So it is pretty clear to me where they get their athletic abilities from! I just wish that their Dad was around more to help them out with practicing and stuff. And games. It would be nice to have someone to go with me to some of their games. You see, my step son is 12, and this is his very last year of little league. The twins’ games and my step sons games fall on a lot of the same nights. T-ball is every Tuesday night and Saturday mornings, baseball is every Tuesday & Thursday nights. So my husband tries to go to the boys Saturday games, but lately that hasn’t worked out to good, and he has had to go to work instead! I’m glad that the boys don’t seem to mind he isn’t there, it just makes me a little sad to think that they are old enough to realize now that Daddy isn’t there. I just keep reminding myself that next year will be different!

Posted May 22, 2013 by mytwotornados in Uncategorized

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5th birthday bash!   Leave a comment

So the weekend after the boys turned 5, we had their birthday party! They picked on theme this year, thank goodness, and I made them stick with it. This years theme was Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles. Thanks to Pinterest, I was able to find some really great party ideas!

The one hard thing about TMNT is that you can’t get a lot of party favors just yet, so I had to rely on my creativity to get me thru. Luckily I was feeling pretty creative. I ordered a TMNT sucker mold off eBay and made suckers in each of the 4 turtles colors (red, blue, orange & purple.) The boys and all of their little friends loved them! I should give a shout out to my Nana and my great Aunt for all the inspiration, growing up they were always making us chocolate suckers. So that’s how I new how to do it! It was a lot of fun too! I also made felt eye masks for all the kids. I think I made a total of 25 eye masks. And again, I made them in all of the turtle colors. I also made rice crispy treats and cut them into squares. Then i took some of my left over colored chocolate and drizzled them with the melted chocolate and put sprinkles on them all.

It was a lot of work getting everything ready for their party, but I would do it again. I like going all out for them, especially since we came so close to not having them….Maybe some day when they are older I won’t look at it that way, but for now, its still such a fresh memory that it tends to creep back out around their birthday!

Posted May 22, 2013 by mytwotornados in Uncategorized

Can’t believe my boys are 5!   Leave a comment

So back on the first of May, my babies turned 5…You see the only place I can get away with calling them my babies still is right here on my blog, where they can’t see or hear it! Some people might find this a little strange, but I don’t. You see when you are given a 50% chance on bringing 1 of your children home after childbirth, I think you get the write to call them your babies as long as you want.

It seems like just yesterday that I was on a helicopter being transported to a hospital with a NICU that could assist with the delivery of our boys. I was only 26 weeks 5 days when they decided to make their grand appearance.  And grand it was. By ultra sound the boys were both measuring right around 1 pound each, which for twins at that gestation was accurate. Thankfully, they were 2 pounds and 2 pounds 2 ounces each! Sometimes I wonder if they had been smaller if they would have had such a great chance at survival.

Right before my emergency c-section, the doctor that delivered them, shook my husbands hand and told us both that our odds were not very good. But once he delivered them and discovered that the ultra sound was a little off, he changed his mind and told us that our changes of bringing them both home was a little better, but we def. were not out of the woods. It was a very long road, with many ups and downs along the way. They were in the NICU for 99 long days! Then they moved to pediatrics in the same hospital for another 9 days after that. 108 days if your counting! We only came home when we did because we agreed to bring them both home on oxygen and heart/lung monitors.  When they first gave us that option, to bring them home with the equipment we never thought twice about it. We both asked them when we could come home!

Would now be a good time to mention that we were at a hospital that was about 3.5 hours away from home for us? We were lucky to be at that hospital, not only because its one of the best in the whole state we live in (Maine) but it is in the town next to where my parents live! I was literally at my home away from home when I wasn’t at the hospital with my boys. My husband did a lot of driving back and fourth between home for work and back to the hospital to see the boys.

So my long drawn out post is basically to say that sometimes when you are give a worst case scenario, it isn’t always as bad as it seems. I am not 100% sure on what the boys weight now, but if I had to guess I would say Nathan is about 58 pounds and 48 inches tall (he started out at 2lbs 2oz 15 inches) and Ethan is about 40 pounds and maybe 45 inches tall (he started out at 2lb and 13 3/4 inches.) i will know for sure tomorrow, when we go to the Pediatrician for our 5 year well child visit!

Posted May 22, 2013 by mytwotornados in Uncategorized

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Things my boys say   Leave a comment

So I have been meaning to sit down and write this post for quite some time now. I want to remember all of these little gems so that when they are driving me nuts as teenagers I can look back and remember just how cute they were at one time!

So I think its best if I do this with bullets 🙂

  • Nathan calls the orange road construction cones “pine cones.” We were running errands today and went thru road construction and he said to me “look Mama, they have the pine cones out again.”
  • Ethan and Nathan both refer to our vehicle service center as the “bagrage.”
  • Both of the boys love going to “Malmart” which we would all call Wal-Mart. It may in fact be their favorite place to go.
  • Since we got the boys kittens when school started last fall, they have happily sat and watched me change the “kitty glitter” every morning…They can both say litter, but still they call it “kitty glitter.”
  • My step daughter ran cross-country last fall when school started. The boys both call it “crunch crunchry.”

I guess that’s all I have for right now, but let me mention that as I remember more, or hear them say other cute things, I will be sure to come back and add to it!

Posted May 22, 2013 by mytwotornados in Ethan, Nathan

playing favorites   Leave a comment

Let me start of my rant by saying that the one thing that I learned that has stuck in my head to most about our whole NICU experience, was that I am the best advocate for my kids. They aren’t always going to be able to stick up for themselves, and some of the things that upset me won’t be the same that up set them. So I need to stick up for them.

In this case, its my kids whole Pre-K class that I feel needs me to stick up for them. I have talked with other Mom’s but it seems as though, I am the only parent who isn’t afraid to go into the office and complain. We had a very tricky head lice issue a few weeks ago at the school, and another couple moms and I complained and we didn’t really get very far with it. Yes, we got our point across, but I think that the reaction we got from the office staff wasn’t what it could have been.

Anyway, so here is my new issue. When they decided to break the Pre-K class into two different sessions, mornings & afternoons they didn’t do it very fairly.  They pretty much grouped them together by picking out the more advanced ones and put them in one session, and the rest of the normal kids were grouped together. My problem with this is that first off, the “more advanced” group has some kids that were put in it, just because their parents are friends so they wanted their kids to be put together in school. Which in a way I understand, but they are all going to be together in Kindergarten next year so why break them up that way this year, just to make it harder for the teacher next year, trying to work them all together.

My twins started the year off in the afternoon group, which is the normal/challenged group. I was fine with that, and I still am, however, its the label I am not so ok with. Especially since the morning group at the time were the “advanced group.” Half way threw the school year, they switched the groups around so the afternoon kids went in the morning and the morning kids in the afternoon.  The first few weeks were awful, mostly because one of my twins is a sleeper. I would have to wake him up on days around 9 so he could get up and have breakfast and lunch before I took them to school for 11:30. Switching us to the morning group meant that I started putting the twins to bed at 6:15, just so I could wake them both up earlier, around 6:30 so they could get up and woken up and ready for school to ride the bus at 7:20. But they adjusted fine, and now most days they are up on their own and that makes it easier. Typically one or two days a week I will let them rest in till around 7, and then I take them up to school so they are there by 8 when it starts.

Ever since we have started school, the group the boys are in, has missed many things at school. Things that shouldn’t be missed, just because their the morning/afternoon group. Our town does a big Veteran’s day assembly at the high school, and all the school kids go. Well at the time my boys group was afternoon, so they didn’t get to go. They weren’t even invited to attend with their parents there. The fire truck came to school so the kids could learn about fire safety, and the only reason the boys class saw it was because one of the parents in the room is a volunteer firemen, so he suggested they bring the truck back so that the rest of the Pre-K kids could have a turn. Things slowed down for a while after that, and everything was fine. Fast forward to the switch to mornings and now things are scheduled for the afternoon group. Maybe now would be a good time to tell you all that the principal’s son is in Pre-K this year, and he goes in the “more advanced” group. The group that hasn’t missed anything all year. Instead of having a valentine’s day party this year, the whole school went on a field trip. They had both groups of Pre-K kids attend, and they went for the whole day. The kids did great together. Fast forward to a week ago and things got a little out of control.

On Monday, the school had arranged for all the kids to go on a field trip to the town library, this was for our schools Literacy Week. I thought it was great, until we got a letter home saying that the field trip was in the afternoon, and the only way the morning Pre-K kids got to go was if their parents drove them, and stayed with them at the field trip. So about 6 of the kids went, that’s only half the class. That same week of school on Thursday, there was an author coming to the school to talk to the kids and to give them each an autographed copy of his newest book. The boys were so excited!! Then again we get a letter home that said that the Pre-K time with the Author would be in the afternoon, so if we wanted our children to attend, then we needed to bring them back to school and stay with them for the hour that they would be there. So that was two times in one week that unless the parents were willing to bring the kids themselves and stay with them, that they would miss out on the activities. Now the library we had 6 kids go from our group, know how many showed up for the Author? Only 2…My two.

That same week at school on Friday, there was a story teller coming to school. And our group was so excited, because for the first time, it was scheduled during our school time! I was so excited for the boys because I wouldn’t have to explain to them why I had to take them and why they couldn’t stay at school afterwords. Then we find out that the afternoon kids would also all be in attendance that morning, as they switched the afternoon kids to morning kids that day, so the Teacher had all 20 of the Pre-K kids at the same time. Which I thought that was great. But then it hit me. The school schedules all of these things so that the “advanced group” could be there for them, and the one time things were scheduled differently, they let the kids come in the morning instead of having their parents bring them in. IT WASN’T FAIR!! Sorry for the capitals but that’s how I feel.

Now coming up on the 15th of this month, there is another field trip, and it is to go to a school the next town over to see Dino Man. I guess he brings a bunch of stuff on dinosaurs and sets up displays and talks to the kids. Now while I realize that the other school is the one that scheduled this and its nice of them to invite our school. My problem is that the only way that my kids get to go, is if I once again change my afternoon plans and take them myself. i would think that since the school was so willing to change something so the afternoon kids didn’t get to miss it, that they could extend the same kind of courtesy to the rest of us, but they won’t. They claim that because they have given the parents enough notice that they should be able to bring them, but at the same time, when they changed the time of the afternoon group so they didn’t miss the story teller they never asked the parents to come.

I guess what I am saying is that the school is playing favorites by changing the time for one group and letting them all attend something, but they won’t let the morning kids go in the afternoon that day just so they don’t miss out on something. Seems as though just because the principal’s son is in the other group, they don’t miss anything. 

I will add that I won’t make my kids miss out on the field trip, just because I have to go. I will change the plans I had made for us for that afternoon so that we can go see Dino Man. But I know very well that of the 11 kids in their class, there might be 4 kids that get to attend it, because the other parents have other children that would have to attend as well and they were not invited.

I just don’t know what I should do. I plan to go talk to the principal about it this morning when I pick the boys up from school. I just think that she maybe doesn’t realize that the rest of us parents see that her son’s group gets special treatment. Wish me luck friends, I have a feeling I am going to need it!

Posted March 7, 2013 by mytwotornados in Uncategorized

Things that drive me crazy   Leave a comment

OK so with it being winter the list is going to be endless….

First off, we have been going to a bunch of high school basketball games, mostly girls games because our niece is a sophomore and we love to watch her play. But once in a while the girls games are followed by boys games. That always makes for an interesting day. You see, when we take the boys to games, I pack a bag full of toys, snacks and drinks.  And when the boys are there, they are usually well behaved. Minus the many trips to the bathroom, they sit there and play with their toys an watch some of the game. You see, the thing that drives me crazy about this, is that there are other little kids there, that will see the boys and come over to play with them. I don’t mind that so much as I mind that the kids won’t let my boys play with their toys. They get mad at me when i tell them that they can’t take toys from the boys, because they are theirs.  They are welcomed to play with them, and i always have extra toys so there are plenty, but it never seems to cut it. They always want the same toys that the boys have, and I just don’t know what to do.

The next thing that drives me crazy is when we get our visitation changed last minute with the old kids. Yes, I understand sometimes things come up, but come on! We haven’t seen the kids in 2 weeks. i understand the first week, it was because the boys both had a touch of the flu and we didn’t want to share our germs, but at the same time Jason could have take the kids to his parents house for a few hours.  It wouldn’t have been ideal, but it would have been better then not seeing them.  This week, Jason didn’t feel that great for our first visit, but the next day he was fine and could have had the kids, but his ex didn’t want them to come.  It just drives me crazy to see my husband so upset because he can’t see his kids! It just isn’t right!

Snow days or school delays are next on my list. You see, this week our school switched the Pre-K kids from mornings to afternoons or afternoons to mornings.  When there is a school delay, there is no morning pre-k. So the last time this happened, it wasn’t a big deal, because we were afternoon kids so we still had school. Now that we switched to mornings, we lost out on another day of school. You see I wouldn’t care so much, if we hadn’t missed so many other days of school. Any day so far that there has been an early release day, there hasn’t been afternoon pre-k. I get it, it makes sense, because they wouldn’t go to school until 11:30 and would have gotten out at 12:30. But if you add up all the early release days/snow days and school delay days now, by the time the end of the year comes the boys group will probably be missing about 8-10 days that the other group hasn’t missed.  I just don’t think it is very fair to the kids missing out on all of these days.

It really drives me crazy that we can’t file our taxes yet also. We are usually the ones that file right away. So it seems so strange not to have filed yet. But we will file sometime the first of Feb. and hopefully it won’t take to long to get them back this year! I have some big plans for that money this year!

hope you all have a great weekend!

Posted January 25, 2013 by mytwotornados in Uncategorized

Hello 2013!   Leave a comment

So I know its been a long time since I have blogged, and I have plenty to blog about. So we’ll catch up here and then I’ll try to do better blogging this year! We’ll see how that goes!

So we moved back in September, and it was a disaster!  After we found the rental that we are currently living in, the people who own the house that we had been renting called the day before they wanted us out and told us that they had changed their mind and that we were expected to stay in that house until they wanted to sell it again..So frustrating! We had already signed a new lease on a better place and everything we had was all packed up! They threatened to take us to court if we didn’t stay, and it was a huge mess. The unfortunate thing about this is that we are friends with relatives of the owners and that has made for an interesting friendship. I mean we couldn’t back out of a newly signed lease, just because they changed their mind. We had so much stuff going on around the time that school started, that it made everything that much harder!
So we got moved and settled in, which was actually good timing, since we moved on the 2nd and 3rd of September, and my babies started Pre-K on the 4th! It was the best distraction I could have asked for.

So as I just said, the boys started school in September, and they have done GREAT! Much better than I had thought that they would, that’s for sure. I expected them to be sad that I had to leave them, but they never cried, which was great for that first drop off at school! I however, was a mess. I held it together until I got out of the school, but then I got driving home and I lost it. I happened to look in my rear view mirror and saw their empty booster seats. It his me so hard that I had to pull over I was crying to hard! Once I got home, I was welcomed to the distraction of having to unpack everything from the move, so that kept me pretty busy. But I was never so happy to see 2:45, so I could walk down to the bus stop at the end of the road and get my babies off the school bus. They came home very happy and it turned out to be the best thing for them.

They love school and they have continued to do so well! They got their first report cards in November, and they got all 3s and 4s! Which is the best you can get. I was impressed, and the 2nd quarter of school ends next Friday, I am looking forward to getting their next report cards to make sure they are still doing so good! On the 22nd of January they will be switching from afternoon pre-k to morning pre-k. This will be interesting I am sure! Especially since most school days I have to wake Nathan up at 8:30 so he can get some breakfast into him before they have lunch, they have to be at school at 11:30, so I usually end up feeding them lunch around 10:45, I don’t really like feeding them lunch so early, but I have no choice. It will be interesting to see how they adjust to getting up around 6:30 everyday, getting dressed and  breakfast right away to get to the bus stop at 7:15. I would bet I end up driving them to school most days, which is ok with me, I won’t mind!

Right after school started, we ended up in the ER with Nathan. He was fooling around with his brother and he slipped running into their bedroom and cracked the back of his head open on the edge of their bedroom door. 3 staples later, he was fine, but I was scared to death! I guess I never realized how bad head wounds bleed, but wow he lost a lot of blood. When we got to the ER the intake nurse actually took the time to argue with me about how old he was. All I could do was say to her “yes I  know he is a big boy, but I swear on his life he is only 4” and she kept saying to me “are you sure he is 4, he looks to be about 7 or maybe 8”  I have never been such a mess. I had blood all over my shirt and jeans and his head was still bleeding, and she was arguing with me….Once we got seen by the doctor and got his head patched up I was fine, but wow, wasn’t I scared! He handled it like a champ tho. The only thing he was upset about was that he had to miss open house at school. Thankfully my mother and father in law were able to come right to out house and take care of Ethan and take him to open house. And we were lucky enough that the boys Pre-K teacher was kind enough to let my husband and I come into the class room the next day at drop off to check everything out! So thankful that we live in such a small community!

Thanksgiving was pretty uneventful. We had my parents up for the long weekend and as soon as my mom and I got our meal cleaned up, we hit the road to go to Bangor for our black Friday shopping! I had so much fun, and I’m pretty sure my Mom did too. We rented a hotel room, so when we got to Bangor we went right to bed! I set the alarm on my phone to get us up around 11 that night and we went and got some food then hit the stores! I laughed so hard! I can’t wait to do it again this year, I already have my room booked! And I was almost done with my Christmas shopping when we got back to my house on Friday afternoon!

Christmas was next and that was great! Everyone was happy with what they got or so it seems! My favorite thing I got was a kitchen Aid stand mixer! I have wanted one for years and my lovely husband decided that this was the year!! I have used it just about every day since I got it! I can’t believe how easy it is to make things with it!

I think that about sums it up for now! I can’t believe it’s already the 11th of January! My how time is flying. I remember before we had the twins everyone said time with fly by once you have kids and I never believed them! But oh my isn’t that the truth!

Posted January 11, 2013 by mytwotornados in Ethan, family, Me, Nathan