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Hello 2013!   Leave a comment

So I know its been a long time since I have blogged, and I have plenty to blog about. So we’ll catch up here and then I’ll try to do better blogging this year! We’ll see how that goes!

So we moved back in September, and it was a disaster!  After we found the rental that we are currently living in, the people who own the house that we had been renting called the day before they wanted us out and told us that they had changed their mind and that we were expected to stay in that house until they wanted to sell it again..So frustrating! We had already signed a new lease on a better place and everything we had was all packed up! They threatened to take us to court if we didn’t stay, and it was a huge mess. The unfortunate thing about this is that we are friends with relatives of the owners and that has made for an interesting friendship. I mean we couldn’t back out of a newly signed lease, just because they changed their mind. We had so much stuff going on around the time that school started, that it made everything that much harder!
So we got moved and settled in, which was actually good timing, since we moved on the 2nd and 3rd of September, and my babies started Pre-K on the 4th! It was the best distraction I could have asked for.

So as I just said, the boys started school in September, and they have done GREAT! Much better than I had thought that they would, that’s for sure. I expected them to be sad that I had to leave them, but they never cried, which was great for that first drop off at school! I however, was a mess. I held it together until I got out of the school, but then I got driving home and I lost it. I happened to look in my rear view mirror and saw their empty booster seats. It his me so hard that I had to pull over I was crying to hard! Once I got home, I was welcomed to the distraction of having to unpack everything from the move, so that kept me pretty busy. But I was never so happy to see 2:45, so I could walk down to the bus stop at the end of the road and get my babies off the school bus. They came home very happy and it turned out to be the best thing for them.

They love school and they have continued to do so well! They got their first report cards in November, and they got all 3s and 4s! Which is the best you can get. I was impressed, and the 2nd quarter of school ends next Friday, I am looking forward to getting their next report cards to make sure they are still doing so good! On the 22nd of January they will be switching from afternoon pre-k to morning pre-k. This will be interesting I am sure! Especially since most school days I have to wake Nathan up at 8:30 so he can get some breakfast into him before they have lunch, they have to be at school at 11:30, so I usually end up feeding them lunch around 10:45, I don’t really like feeding them lunch so early, but I have no choice. It will be interesting to see how they adjust to getting up around 6:30 everyday, getting dressed and  breakfast right away to get to the bus stop at 7:15. I would bet I end up driving them to school most days, which is ok with me, I won’t mind!

Right after school started, we ended up in the ER with Nathan. He was fooling around with his brother and he slipped running into their bedroom and cracked the back of his head open on the edge of their bedroom door. 3 staples later, he was fine, but I was scared to death! I guess I never realized how bad head wounds bleed, but wow he lost a lot of blood. When we got to the ER the intake nurse actually took the time to argue with me about how old he was. All I could do was say to her “yes I  know he is a big boy, but I swear on his life he is only 4” and she kept saying to me “are you sure he is 4, he looks to be about 7 or maybe 8”  I have never been such a mess. I had blood all over my shirt and jeans and his head was still bleeding, and she was arguing with me….Once we got seen by the doctor and got his head patched up I was fine, but wow, wasn’t I scared! He handled it like a champ tho. The only thing he was upset about was that he had to miss open house at school. Thankfully my mother and father in law were able to come right to out house and take care of Ethan and take him to open house. And we were lucky enough that the boys Pre-K teacher was kind enough to let my husband and I come into the class room the next day at drop off to check everything out! So thankful that we live in such a small community!

Thanksgiving was pretty uneventful. We had my parents up for the long weekend and as soon as my mom and I got our meal cleaned up, we hit the road to go to Bangor for our black Friday shopping! I had so much fun, and I’m pretty sure my Mom did too. We rented a hotel room, so when we got to Bangor we went right to bed! I set the alarm on my phone to get us up around 11 that night and we went and got some food then hit the stores! I laughed so hard! I can’t wait to do it again this year, I already have my room booked! And I was almost done with my Christmas shopping when we got back to my house on Friday afternoon!

Christmas was next and that was great! Everyone was happy with what they got or so it seems! My favorite thing I got was a kitchen Aid stand mixer! I have wanted one for years and my lovely husband decided that this was the year!! I have used it just about every day since I got it! I can’t believe how easy it is to make things with it!

I think that about sums it up for now! I can’t believe it’s already the 11th of January! My how time is flying. I remember before we had the twins everyone said time with fly by once you have kids and I never believed them! But oh my isn’t that the truth!

Posted January 11, 2013 by mytwotornados in Ethan, family, Me, Nathan

Transitions   Leave a comment

It seems like every time i turn around, the boys are going thru a transition of some sorts. I mean they went from sharing a crib to sleeping in separate cribs.  And they didn’t mind. Then they went from bottles to sippy cups. This, we struggled with.  It seems like it took me forever to find a cup that they liked.  I think I tried everything I could find, until I gave in and bought the ones I thought for sure they wouldn’t like.  And turns out I was wrong, they loved them.  One of the next transitions we had was going from cribs to toddler beds.  We got lucky when we got their cribs, they each transitioned into toddler beds.  That was a rather easy transition as well.  They knew they couldn’t get out of their bed and roam freely.  They knew that bedtime ment they had to lay down and go to sleep.  They knew that I was just a few steps away from them, all they had to do was speak to me, and I would hear them on the monitor and come to them if they needed something. I was expecting the worse with that transition, I mean, first off they share a room and I thought for sure they would test us and try to get out and play.
The next transition was from diapers to underwear.  I was not looking forward to potty training.  I think this was harder on me then it was on them.  That is, once I figured out that there was no way they were going to potty train together.  I mean sure, I’m sure a lot of twins do things like this together, but not my twins.  Ethan made this transition quickly.  I’m talking less than 1 week, and he was staying dry even at night and would cry when I put a pull-up on him at night because he didn’t need it.  So after a couple of days of staying dry and night, I put him to bed in underwear and we’ve never looked back.  Sure, we have had our share of accidents, but I think that comes with any child.  I didn’t think I was ever going to get Nathan trained.  Ethan was trained shortly after they turned 3 in May.  Nathan had NO interest at all.  We would try and try and nothing worked.  I gave up on more than one occasion. Finally on New Year’s Day, I said this is it, I am sick of changing pull-ups every few hours.  And when he got up that morning I put him in underwear.  I’m not saying it was as easy as it was with Ethan, but it was easier than I thought it would be.  For one thing, when I trained Ethan we were living at the old house, and we had a bathroom on the first floor, here we weren’t so lucky.  Our only bathroom is on the second floor and we mad a ton of trips up and down the steps.  There were accidents but again, nothing like I had anticipated. He made me proud, that’s for sure.  Within 10 days, he was completely trained for day time.  He would go on long stretches of staying dry at night and then he would be wet for a few mornings in a row.  Finally I told him, if he could stay dry for 7 nights in a row, then the next night he could wear underwear to bed, just like Ethan.  That’s all it took.  He stayed dry for those 7 nights and on the next night, he said “I get to wear underwear just like my Ethan” and he was so excited.  But wouldn’t you know it, that on that first night wearing underwear to bed, he had an accident.  He woke up the next morning in tears, but I didn’t make a big deal of it, and told him that he could still wear big boy underwear to bed.  And that was on April 1.  We have been mostly dry at night ever since then, with the occasional accident in the night, but not that often.  And they both amaze me because there are not many nights that they wake us up to go Pee in the night.  Usually they sleep right thru until at least 5:30, sometimes later before getting up to use the bathroom.  And on those mornings, I count my lucky stars that they usually go back to sleep for an hour or longer!

Our next transition was from toddler beds to twin size beds.  This happened sooner than we had planned on it happening but when you have children who are very tall for their age it happens.  Nathan ran out of room.  Every time he rolled over at night he was awake and that ment no sleep for Mommy and I wasn’t having that.  So off to the furniture store we went and bunk beds it was.  We ordered them, and my step son agreed to sleep on the top bunk, so Ethan went on the bottom bunk, and Nathan went in my step son’s twin bed. It was comforting to know that we were back to sleeping thru the night!! But now our problem is that the bunk beds are very poorly crafted.  They keep falling apart and we are afraid that Ethan, sleeping in the bottom bunk will be hurt.  So the bunk beds are going away. We are saying goodbye to the bunk beds on Thursday, and we are getting a trundle-bed.  Tyler is going back in his twin bed and Ethan and Nathan will share the trundle.  I’m not sure who is sleeping where yet, we’ll let them decide once they get here on Thursday.  But I’m hoping this transition will go as easily as all the others have.

One more transition that we have made recently, is that we have gotten rid of all of our sippy cups.  Last friday (8/10/12) when we got up I opened the cupboard and a couple of cups fell out at me.  And I thought, its time.  So I poured them each a half of a glass of milk and said, your cups stay at the table and you need to drink slowly, there’s no cover.  We have had little spills but nothing major.  And the boys are great about leaving them on the table.  I decided to keep 2 sippy cups, but just for when we are out of the house, I’m not to big on them having open containers in my vehicle, although, I’m sure that will happen soon enough.  My husband learned the hard lesson while I was at a baby shower on sunday, only put as much in the cups as you are willing to clean up…

Our next transition will be a move to a new house, again. and then the next transition will be school starting, 3 weeks from today! That last transition may be a little harder on me then it is on them!!

I know I haven’t hit all of the transition that my boys have had, but I have touched base on the important ones.  I think the only really big one I left out is the one were we took away the boys beloved pacifiers!! Which is a post all on its own if anyone is interested…

Posted August 14, 2012 by mytwotornados in Ethan, family, Me, Nathan, step kids

All in the numbers…   Leave a comment

So I don’t usually do a post like this, but I think its time for it.

In 18 days we are supposed to be moved out of our current rental house, and into another rental.  That wouldn’t be a problem, except we have NO idea where we are going.  We live in such a small town, that there aren’t a lot of rentals.  We have a couple of potential places that are in the works, so we are hoping to hear something soon.

In 21 days, my boys will start school! I have mixed emotions about them going to school.  I am happy that they are going, it’s going to be good for them, but at the same time, I am going to be lonely at home without them. And I know how selfish that sounds, but its the truth.  The boys went to Vacation Bible School for a week, and it was just three hours every afternoon, but I’ll tell you, I didn’t want to be home without them.  The house is just too quiet and I don’t like it.  I can’t get a job until they are in full day kindergarten, so this could be a long year for me.  But I will say, hopefully it will give me a chance to get caught up on somethings around the house (once we get settled into a new house) and for once maybe I’ll actually have my housework done for a change. Or that will be my goal anyway, to get my housework & errands done while the boys are at school in the mornings, then I can just enjoy my afternoons with them after school.

In 2 days, my boys will have been home from the hospital for 4 years! Let me tell you that after spending 108 days in the hospital, I never thought the day would come that I would ever get them home.  We were lucky in the way that they never got re-admitted to the hospital, and for the most part have been pretty healthy ever since they came home.  Seems like Wednesday will be an appropriate day to have some cake.  we always celebrate the 15th of August, and only for that reason.  Our whole life changed on that day, it was up to us to keep things going with the boys, there were no more nurses at our disposal to help us take care of them.

Also in 2 days, I’m going school shopping for the first time.  I have been picking up a few things here and there all summer. We ordered the boys back packs on-line and have gotten their school supplies already, so all I have left to get are clothes. Which I have also been picking up a few things, but I need to get them some more pants and a nice pair of sneakers for each of them.  I think it will be fun to get the shopping done. And also, I’m going with a few girlfriends, so it will be a fun girls day, complete with lunch and pedicures!! I can’t wait!

10 boat payments is all we have left on my husbands lobster boat! I know 10 payments doesn’t seem like a lot for some people, but those 10 payments are actually split up into 5 payments a year so that mean in 2 years, we’ll be house shopping!! I can’t wait to finally have my own place.

Oh and you know what really stinks? Oh the price of lobster that my husband is catching…Our boat price is $1.90/pound.  And it really stinks when you go to the grocery store and see the same exact lobster that my husband is catching is for sale for over $4/pound.  Tell me who’s making the money there, cause it certainly isn’t the lobster fishermen.  They have to go out and pay for bait, fuel and they pay their crew and let me tell you it’s certainly hard when the price is down so low!

Posted August 13, 2012 by mytwotornados in family

summer time and the living is easy   Leave a comment

So I don’t know about all of you guys, but this summer has been awesome so far!! The boys have grown up so much over the past year, that we are able to enjoy so much more this summer!

We have been spending so much time outside that my poor house is a mess.  I have been trying to get up and get motivated in the mornings so that I can get some of my housework done, but lets face it, i don’t have much motivation first thing in the morning so not much has been getting done! But the housework will still be here on rainy days and when summer is over so it’s not that bad.

I would say on average we are spending 3 to 4 days a week at the beach. While the other days are spent hanging around the house.  Thank goodness we got the boys a swing set with their birthday money and we picked up a small inflatable pool for them as well. So when we are home, we are outside. For that matter when we get home from the beach we usually are only inside long enough to re-apply the sun screen and then they head right out to the pool or the swing set!

The beach has been a really great experience this year.  Despite all the complaining i do when I am packing everything up and getting stuff ready, we really do have a great time.  This is the first summer that I can just let the boys go play, they know how far they can go in each direction and they are doing great with listening to me while we are out and about.  One thing I love about living in down east Maine, the beaches that we go to aren’t very busy, so I don’t have to worry about the boys wandering off with other people.  We usually meet up with friends and that makes the day even more enjoyable.  But when we don’t meet up with friends we still have a great time. I can bring a book or a magazine and enjoy them while the boys play, which is a big improvement from last year.

We have been really lucky with the weather lately too, or all summer actually.  Its been in the 70’s to the 80’s most days, and we have had a nice ocean breeze most of the time.  But I guess that’s another benefit of having the ocean in your back yard.  That’s something I may never be willing to part with, its nice to be able to wake up and look out the window onto the ocean every morning! It’s even a nice benefit in the winter cause we don’t get as much snow as they do inland, but that is a whole other post for another day!

The boys have been going on the boat a little bit, with hopes to get to go a little bit more before the end of summer.  They love to “go to work” with Daddy and “Gee” (my father in law) on the boat.  Both of the boys keep saying how they love to “make the monies” just like Daddy.  So when they get off the boat they have been getting paid a little something, which is going right into their savings account.  Won’t be long and we will be sending in for the boys student licenses.  Well, it will be a little while because they have to be 7 or 8, but lets face it, if these next few years go by as fast as the past 4 have, it will seem like its tomorrow!

I have been working a couple of days a week on the boat as well, and I love it! I hadn’t gone to haul with Jason since before I was pregnant with the boys, but I picked it right back up like I hadn’t ever stopped.  Made me realize how much I missed it by staying home with the boys.  I am looking forward to the time in the summers to come where we all get up and head out on the boat at 5, and get home and cleaned up and then head to the beach or the pool! This is what summers are for right, making such great memories with the kids.

Speaking of the kids, we have actually had my step kids a lot more than we normally do over this summer vacation. And its been great! Tyler has been going on the boat a lot with my husband and Hannah has been hanging out at home with the boys and I.  For the most part this goes OK, we have had a couple rough days where she does what she wants and isn’t nice to the boys, but she isn’t getting away with it.  She is learning that there are consequences for her actions when she is at her Dad’s house and she may not like it, but is doing OK with it.

I guess that’s about it for now.  I will try to post again in a few days.  The boys are going to vacation bible school for the first time next week.  It runs from Monday to Friday from 12:30-3:30! it will be a good thing for them.  It will be the first time that they are away from me in a “school” type setting, and I am sure it will be good for all of us! I know I can’t wait to get a few projects done around the house while they are there. I need to get our bedroom painted and the bathroom too.  These have needed to be done since we moved in last fall…nothing like waiting a while to do them!

Posted July 25, 2012 by mytwotornados in Ethan, family, Nathan, step kids

Things I Love   Leave a comment

 

So we have had a busy couple of weeks around here…Nothing to spectacular, just busy as usual. The regular baseball season is over, and we are about to start the All Star season, T’s first game is this Saturday, and we can’t wait!! They have a pretty awesome team this year, so I imagine that they will do great!!

So the boys are doing and saying a bunch of different things now, and my heart just melts when I hear them talking!!  Here are a few things that I Love:

  • The boys are both taking swim lessons, first time ever, and they are like little fish! They both are able to jump into the pool now, and that’s a pretty big deal if you ask me. Especially since its their first time in a swimming pool!
  • Nathan just randomly comes over to me and gives me hugs and kisses
  • Ethan is constantly telling me “love you too Mama”
  • We went to the beach the other day, and I was amazed at how well they listened to me.  They knew how far they could go in either direction on the beach, and if they went to far, i only had to speak to them.
  • They are growing up, and I don’t have to be right with them at the beach, its nice living in a small town where there are only about 10 people at the beach, and you know them all.
  • I got the letter from school for them both the other day, their first official day of school is Sept. 4th!
  • They will finally play for hours together without fighting, in their toy room!
  • We just ordered the boys their first swing set.  I can’t wait for it to come so we can have something else for the boys to do outside!
  • We had the boys 4 year pics done the other day at the beach, I can’t wait to get them back
  • The boys have been sleeping in till 7 most mornings!! kinda nice since they had been getting up at 5:30!
  • We FINALLY got our tax return back. no thanks to someone’s ex-wife thinking that she can claim both of the kids, when it states clearly in the divorce that we can claim T.
  • We got a new couch and chair for our living room over the weekend, a lot more comfortable than the old ones, and not broken for that matter
  • My parents are coming on Thursday for the weekend, actually heading back home on Monday.
  • Our town is celebrating the 4th of July on the 30th of June, even calling it “summer fest” instead of the 4th

That about sums it up for now! I can’t wait for my parents to get here on Thursday! Mostly excited that my Mom will actually be here for the boys last 2 swim lessons, so maybe she’ll be able to get a few pics of the boys in the pool, I would, but I have to go in with them!

 

Hope you all have a happy and safe 4th of July!

 

Posted June 26, 2012 by mytwotornados in Ethan, family, Nathan, step kids

What to do with jealous kids   Leave a comment

So not much has been going on here, just regular stuff really.  I had a follow-up with my OB the other day to make sure that the Essure procedure that I had done in January worked, and as i expected it did. I couldn’t be happier to not have any more babies. I mean don’t get me wrong, I kinda miss my little ones being babies, but I wouldn’t want to start all over again. With that being said, my “babies” will be 4 in 12 days! That’s totally not fair!

We had pre-k registration last monday and the boys did great! They were so excited to go to school, even tho it only lasted about 15 minutes for each of them. And let me just say that ever since I took them into the school, they look so much more grown up to me.  I think it was just seeing them in that setting, knowing that they will be there 3 mornings a week in the fall.  I didn’t cry tho, I thought I would be a little more upset about it then I was, but maybe I have come to terms with them going to school…..Let’s see how the first day goes in the fall tho, I’m sure I’ll be a hot mess!

My husband’s birthday is coming up on Saturday.  It seems to sneak up on us every year.  Guess I better get on finding a gift for him! And making a cake!

My father got the twins bikes for Christmas.  We never put them together, for that matter I don’t think we even told them that they had bikes in the basement.  We decided to put them together yesterday, they are so excited.  We should have chosen a different day tho, we had the older kids in the afternoon and I’m pretty sure that they were both a little jealous of the twins, even tho they both have their own bikes, that were bought new for them last year! It’s hard to do things for the boys, even if it’s just a simple thing like putting their bikes together, without the step kids getting jealous.  I made sure as we get them put together that they didn’t think we went out and spent the money on the bikes, not that it would matter, but that’s how their minds work.  However, they were still jealous and I think that’s just how kids are.

Also with the boys getting older its time to get them out of their toddler beds. Nathan is 3ft 7 inches tall and doesn’t really have the room he needs to be comfortable while he is sleeping.  So with that being said, we have bunk beds coming tomorrow for the boy’s room. My step son will sleep on the top bunk, and Ethan will sleep on the bottom bunk, Nathan has already claimed my step son’s big boy bed as his own. We told the step kids last night that we were getting bunk beds for the boy’s room and I’m pretty sure again, the step daughter is jealous.  She said “what do i get for my room” and she didn’t like it when I told her she didn’t need anything! After all the new bunk beds are really for the boy’s birthday. If there was room in the boy’s room for 3 twin beds, we would have just gotten 2 new twin beds, but to save room we went with bunk beds.  I guess I can’t make everyone happy all the time.  Just gotta do my best!

And did I mention that the step-kids would possible be jealous? I mean we just got a phone call from my husbands ex-wife and she told us that the kids “don’t feel good” today so they won’t be coming  this afternoon.  Seems funny to us, that all of a sudden they don’t feel good when they were fine last night! Guess we’ll see how they are feeling for Saturday when they are supposed to come for the weekend.

I think that’s about it right now. I’m sure I’ll think of something else that I forgot and I’ll just post again soon!!

Posted April 19, 2012 by mytwotornados in Ethan, family, Nathan, step kids

what hurts the most   Leave a comment

So everyone makes mistakes in their lives, most people learn from them. I have made plenty of mistakes in my life, none of which I am proud of, but I have learned a lesson from every single one of them. However, certain people in my life that are supposed to be family have chosen recently to throw those mistakes back in my face.  Hurt doesn’t even begin to describe how I am feeling right now.

The first person to throw a certain mistake back in my face was my Aunt. She chose to do this to get back at me for me catching her lying about my health to my family.  You see, she took it upon herself to tell people in my family that the lump I had removed from my breast was cancerous and that I was refusing treatments.  This is not the case and when I confronted her about it, she chose to throw my mistakes back at me, knowing how badly it would hurt me. I know of plenty of mistakes that this Aunt has made that I could have very easily thrown back at her, but I chose to walk away and no longer have anything to do with her.  I do not consider her family any longer, and right now, I am ok with that.  I have so much going on in my own life right now, that I can’t hold the people who are hurting me close to my heart. I wish that things were not the way that they are, but to top it off, this same Aunt chose to threaten me with calling the cops on my if I ever step foot on her property again, which is fine, I never plan to, and I can live my life without any contact with her.  Just stinks that it had to come to that.

Next comes my Brother in Law.  He wasn’t even part of my family when I made the mistake he chose to throw back at me.  It drives me crazy that when he and my Sister couldn’t follow through with a promise, he took it upon himself to dig into my past and hurt me with it. My sister sees nothing wrong with what my BIL has done and she will not talk to me, return my phone calls or text messages.  I have tried to email her, and even sent her messages on good old facebook, but it doesn’t matter, I was in the wrong as far as she is concerned.  She isn’t perfect and neither is he, but you didn’t see me throwing things back in their faces.

I just don’t understand why my family would choose to throw my mistakes back in my face, when in fact they have nothing to do with them. They didn’t have anything to do with the mistakes I made. I put myself in this position and I am dealing with it every day.  I guess that is why it hurts so bad.  And I don’t think that they will ever understand how damaging it is, to have them throw things right in my face! Maybe some day things will get back to normal with them, but I am not holding my breath. I can’t, it hurts too bad!

Posted April 1, 2012 by mytwotornados in family, Me